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In an instant, this mother became a wife, and this husband became a father.
Every wedding marks the beginning of a family, but these kinds do so in a uniquely palpable sense.
We have come to understand, in principle, that “virginity” does not equate to “purity.” And we have further come to understand, in principle, that “marriage” is not the culminating reward for our not having sex before marriage.
But functionally, marriage is still idealized to be something vainer than what Scripture calls it.
Yet a biblical understanding of children leads us to conclude that the baby produced by this sinful act is an unimaginably grand and beautiful gift!
Many of the single moms in our churches became single moms by virtue of having sex out of wedlock.
As a Christian, I make no bones about the fact that such an act was sinful.
But the long-lasting effects of this nonsense is not funny.
Even for those of us young men who have come to understand the staggering reality of the gospel, and what it means for “purity”—namely, that “not having sex” is a pitiful substitute for “purity” when we consider the actual purity of Jesus’ imputed righteousness—we still find the expectations of our pimply-17-year-old-selves hard to shake.
The masterminds of our youth camps often recognized this problem—that is, the problem that such a fragile definition of “purity” will leave young men and women who have had sex in despair—so they came up with one of the most bizarre solutions imaginable: “second virginity.” Rather than changing the definition of “pure” to reflect biblical teachings of sin, atonement, and imputed righteousness, these geniuses changed the definition of “virgin” so they could hold on to their terrible axiom! Except, it isn’t, because as long as you define “purity” as “virginity,” stretch marks and a baby will always brandish many young women as second-tier Christians who are at the very least less pure, no matter how many pamphlets you produce that smack of “second virginity.” Many of us who were the pimply 17 year-olds at youth camp have grown out of this kind of silliness in recent years.